Monday 25 April 2011

Definitely not a Happy Easter

My Easter holidays have ended on a sad and depressing note. I learned yesterday that a friend with MND died that morning. He is the second member of our local MND group to pass away in 15 months. I had known Steve about a year and as well as meeting every few months to watch everyone else have lunch, we were in regular email contact. He had a fantastic and irreverent sense of humour and although I only met his wife and daughter briefly, he was a much loved husband and father. Steve had been responsible for raising the money for the research I was discussing last year. Like all of us, he never expected any resulting treatments to be in time to benefit him but he didn't even get to see the research start.


The news of his death resonated particularly as Steve was at a very similar stage in disease progression as myself and a simple cold which spread to his chest was all it took. So it is hard not to let this news get to me on several levels.

I received another email late last night from a facebook contact whose husband had MND saying he also died a day earlier. I didn't know Graham personally but gather he was largely bed bound with a tracheotomy. He also had a young family and like Steve, had been diagnosed more recently than me. So the phrase 'borrowed time' is difficult to get out of my head, particularly when last night's overnight oxymetry test didn't need a specialist to interpret that the result wasn't good.

But for the moment my thoughts really are with Steve and Graham's family. They have lived through the nightmare of this disease and have just experienced its inevitable conclusion.

8 comments:

Emma said...

so sorry to read this, thinking about you and your family.

xxx

tracey gibb hudson said...

Thank you for that Steve . The only thing i can think of is that now after 16 months of pure torture my beautiful husband is now pain free . a truly brave man Grahams passing was very beautiful (if thats the right word )we kept true to our word he wanted his ventilator turned off and he wanted to be asleep he got his wish . a brave man x

Anonymous said...

So sorry to hear this sad news. Anna P

Graham said...

Thinking of you mate.
Stay chipper old bean.
Take care
Graham

Rachel Pritchard said...

awful news Steve - so sad for everyone. Hang in there. We're thinking of you x

Abi Goodfellow said...

thank you steve. i know he appreciated being able to talk to someone who understood him; you were a an amazing help. Also, he loved writing his blog, and we all loved reading yours, so thank you for that on a personal note. Classic dad that his last one was about the joys of alcohol! Moscow Mules all round- celebrate who he was beneath the raspberry facade.
x

Vicki Foster said...

Sorry things are so tough and sad right now. We read your blog regularly and think it's great you keep us all up to date despite how hard it must be to put some of your experiences into writing. keep up the good work. Love to all Vicki xx

DarinM said...

Steve,

Do you mind if I re-post this to my blog?